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Focus on: self-compassion and resilience

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Clinical psychologist, Dr Sophie Day, has been researching how people with MS adjust to having a long-term condition. In particular, her research focuses on the potential benefits of developing more self-compassion and resilience.

Here Sophie talks about the findings of her research and provides some practical strategies which, through a little bit of self reflection, encourage you to be kinder to, and more accepting of, yourself.

Turning self-criticism into self-compassion

Often people will think about all the housework that needs to be done. If there are lots of jobs that need doing and you don’t get them done, you might start thinking negatively about yourself.

You might think:

“I’ve not done this so I’m really lazy. I shouldn’t be resting, I should be doing the housework. Other people would be able to do it all and do it better than I can do it.”

You can adapt your way of thinking about this problem to be more self-compassionate:

“If I push myself I’m going to end up feeling worse than I feel right now. I’ve done the amount that I feel capable to do today and that’s good enough. I can do the other bits when I have more time and energy. What I’ve achieved is good for me and comparing myself to others may not be helpful. It is ok to feel tired; I’ve used a lot of energy today.”

Could you apply this to a situation in your life and turn your self-critical thoughts into more self-compassionate ones?

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